September 11, 2004
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Sometimes in the midst of my own personal life and my own thoughts, I tend to not think about certain days. 2 days in particular come to mind:
1. Veterans Day.
2. 9/11
But I always have these questions of uncertainty when I do think about these days:
- Am I trying to ignore what has happened and get it out of mind?
- Am I being disrespectful by not honoring or remembering the fallen the entire day?
- What is an actual good amount of time to mourn on these days?
- Is it wrong to have a "good time" and have fun on these days?
- Is what I'm thinking about insensitive?
- Am I being selfish?
I guess I can go on and on. But I have come to MY conclusion about MYself that whatever or however I "handle" things on these days is...Ok.
Comments (12)
hey..hey...everybody handles things differently. Propz to you for taking the time to reflect. It kinda just comes down to one thing: the ppl you love. In fact, I don't think anyone really knows how to act around these "days"...so don't feel as if you're cheaping out. You've got the right questions in mind.
well, today my friend had a barbeque... house warming... we talked about what happened for maybe a minute or two. But yeah... i don't like thinking about things of that nature for a long time...
ohh and the camera... i wish i had a left-handed camera. that would be great... then that would be attached to my hand. but if they had cameras that could go on your glasses or soething like how they have it on Alias... that's freakin' Cool! hahaha!
God Bless America!
I've had the same thoughts about this before. I've come up with the conclusion that on these types of days, I usually celebrate them and honor them by spending it with those I love or taking sometime out of my day to remember and be grateful to those who have sacrificed their lives for the rest of us to be here.
It's just like when you die. Do you want your relatives to mourn ? I personally want them to have the most fabulous dinner party ever to celebrate my life with great music, dance the night away and to remember me in their hearts.
on a jill scott tip, this entry was "beautifully human" (sorry i just got this album the other day). it is much appreciated.
on your "kids" example, i hear that. you use it in a caring way. they are lucky to have you in their lives. just for myself i try to watch using that word even when just talking about them. i use "youth" or "students" because even though they are supposed to be learning from teachers, i see teachers and students sharing space too. because as a teacher/counselor you are there to teach/help but at the same time i find myself learning from them too. thats just my thing. ha, sorry i'm long winded... i hope this makes sense. but yeah, i hear ya.
i went thru the same thing today. until a sudden sweep of emotion came over me out of nowhere and i just started to feel really sad. meanwhile, on holidays ppl say, "happy thanksgiving" or "happy (insert holiday here)". but what do you say on 9/11 to honor the memory? you could prob say, "you know it's 9/11" to your friend. but you prob coudn't say it as an exit-greeting like you would with christmas ("happy xmas!").
i kinda know what you mean. yesterday i was thinking about the whole sept. 11, and i was having fun by going out. I mean it was the homecoming of UB and I really wanted to see it. I think u're totally right, that whatever u do is okay.
hope u're starting the school year fine.
hey thanks for your words of advice this morning... sorry for being a retard... i was tired and wayyy out of it!
i thought i was sick of watching and hearing about stuff on 9/11...but during the anniversary, i was still glued to the tv! i think its just the journalist side in me that makes me feel that way...
why mourn?
It's like visiting a grave and crying... why? Wouldn't you rather go visit the dead and remember the good times?
=] Maybe make them turn in their grave by laughing so hard.. hehehe..
I felt distinct pangs of guilt when someone had to remind me what day it was Saturday.
maybe people who criticize others for not taking it serious enough are wrong. i mean, all decent persons have a reasonable amount of seriousness on these days, but just sometimes don't express it, because that's how some people function. and maybe the people who get angry are just getting angry at the wrong people or for the wrong reasons. well, this is speaking as someone who used to be angry at others for not treating 9/11 more solemnly, but then i realized. different strokes for different folks.
thanks for adding me. :] did anyone ever tell you that you have a very contagious smile? XP
In response to your post,
i just make an effort to always appreciate what the soldiers are doing and remember 9/11 always. its easy to forget things that dont' directly affect us in our day to day life so i try not to forget and donate...and volunteer... >P
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